Addiction recovery and dating
Sometimes referred to as therapeutic disclosure, full disclosure, or healthy disclosure, this is a crucial component in recovery for both the partner and the addict and for the marriage.
Ask the therapist when they think clinical disclosure should be done, how much detail their disclosure includes, if you will be allowed to ask whatever questions you want, and if a polygraph test will be included.
Unfortunately, in spite of studies showing that 70% of wives of sex addicts meet the criteria for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), most sex addiction counselors are still working from the co-addict model.
The co-addict model says a person who is married to a sex addict is sick, out of control, addicted to their spouse, and implies she is partially to blame for his behavior, simply because she chose to marry a sex addict, even though the vast majority of the time she did not even know he was an addict.
With some guidance from your therapist, you should be allowed to ask whatever questions you like during the disclosure.
Important caveat: Your primary therapist does not have to be the one to do your disclosure.
Learn what to look for, what questions to ask, and what to do when you keep hitting road blocks.Unfortunately, I am not a referral service and there is a helpless feeling that I can’t assist every person who comes to me.I hope this article will give partners the information they need to locate the right therapist for them.Below are some tips I hope you will find helpful in finding a counselor who will offer you the validation and guidance you need and deserve. Read the book, Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means.
This will educate you on the sex-addiction induced trauma model. Ask if they use the term co-addict to label partners of sex addicts, especially before they have even met them.Addicts should be taught how to empathize and support his traumatized wife.