Dating and shy
The weird thing is, whenever you go to talk to him or make conversation he starts getting really nervous and edgy. You need to understand something very important about this man. I’ve asked a few women why they think men get nervous around them, and some feel like the change in behavior is a deliberate attempt to turn her off, or to show he isn’t interested in her. When he’s talking to the bar man or waiter he’s Mr.
Why does he go from super confident and bold with his friends, to quiet and nervous around you? It seems so obvious to me as a man, but to women, it can come across as a man being unfriendly deliberately. Confidence, but when he starts talking to you he becomes Mr. Maybe his voice is even shaking he’s that nervous around you. I mean, he’s a good-looking guy and you want to get to know him.
You probably see him all the time, but you’ve never met him because he won’t introduce himself to you. Shy Guy so you can understand dating from his perspective, and so you know how to bring this potentially amazing boyfriend out of himself. When you see him out with his friends, he’s always laughing and joking.
He seems like he’s always having such a great time. One minute he’s confident and bubbly with his friends, then he talks to you and goes into himself, then he goes back to his friends and he’s all energetic and lively again.
If you can find a way to make those things happen though, oh, will he be loved. Knowing there are certain conversation topics that are off limits because if you brought them up, he'd freak out and combust into a pile of nerves.
And the funnest part is trying to find out what those topics are before you accidentally hit that land-mine and he goes into the bathroom and doesn't come back out again. Praying he'll make noise during sex like you're wishing for rain during a drought.
And then trying to hatch a plan that will show them his truly wonderful spirit.
This could possibly involve hidden body cams placed on your jacket during your Netflix and ice cream Friday nights. Seeing someone you know when you're in the drug store with him and thinking, "Yeah, I'm going to have to say every word in this forced small talk convo while he stands there like a stranger who *might* know me." If I had a nickel for every time I'd had one of these interactions (that were so awkward I swear the person never even realized my boyfriend wasn't just a random guy hovering near me like a creep), I'd be a millionaire. Feeling like you say, "I never knew that about you! Because you know he's not always going to disclose all of his awesome qualities and passions and achievements from day one, but also it'd be cool if you didn't feel like every date was the first date (real talk though: this is actually kind of cool ultimately). When you tease him about something little and he doesn't say anything back, so you're pretty sure he hates you now.
Because if you point out that he's blushing you're worried his cheeks would explode off of his face like a pot that was ready to boil over and has now flooded the house. If you like the guy, it’s up to you to become the calming influence in the conversation so he notices that energy.Don’t sit back when you’re talking to a nervous guy. He’s not always going to be shaking like a leaf in your presence. Once you get through that nervous shell of his, you’ll probably find a strong, confident, passionate man inside him, desperate to get to know you and become your man.Just speak to him calmly and ask him general questions about life.
As you start to relax him into a conversation then you can take things a bit deeper and find out more about who he is.Normally, shy guys consider their silence as an attractive element for girls, which in some cases holds true, but not always.